Comments for Personal Tao http://personaltao.com Always dream even when awake. Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:15:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on What is the Third Eye? by Casey http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-4/#comment-13642 Casey Tue, 21 Feb 2012 17:15:34 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13642 Hi my name is Casey as well lol...I would like to say ..nicceee..I like ur footprints, but the word (Energy worker)brings them to a lower entry level. Replace it with (Students) Hi my name is Casey as well lol…I would like to say ..nicceee..I like ur footprints, but the word (Energy
worker)brings them to a lower entry level. Replace it with (Students)

]]> Comment on What is the Third Eye? by Casey Kochmer http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-4/#comment-13614 Casey Kochmer Mon, 20 Feb 2012 19:12:49 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13614 India: The third eye isn't imagination, its all about potential. re-read this page and the comments more closely to understand the difference. Being able to sense potential is very powerful and meaningful. India: The third eye isn’t imagination, its all about potential.

re-read this page and the comments more closely to understand the difference.

Being able to sense potential is very powerful and meaningful.

]]> Comment on Third Eye Retreats by freeyourmindblog.com » Blog Archive » What Is The Third Eye? http://personaltao.com/taoism-retreats/vision-retreats/comment-page-1/#comment-13534 freeyourmindblog.com » Blog Archive » What Is The Third Eye? Fri, 17 Feb 2012 17:58:30 +0000 http://personaltao.com/#comment-13534 [...] for those wishing to learning how to use their third eye in a balanced and healthy environment. These retreats are geared to resolve fears, train a person with safe but powerful techniques and open up a path [...] [...] for those wishing to learning how to use their third eye in a balanced and healthy environment. These retreats are geared to resolve fears, train a person with safe but powerful techniques and open up a path [...]

]]> Comment on What is the Third Eye? by India http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-4/#comment-13494 India Thu, 16 Feb 2012 06:34:38 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13494 hi casey sorry me again, i dont want to offend you, now that ive read the other comments my question to you is .... while opening up the third eye as far as my defefense mechanism goes or protective glove. should I do it knowing that the third eye is just me and my imagination? hi casey sorry me again, i dont want to offend you, now that ive read the other comments my question to you is …. while opening up the third eye as far as my defefense mechanism goes or protective glove. should I do it knowing that the third eye is just me and my imagination?

]]> Comment on What is the Third Eye? by India http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-3/#comment-13491 India Thu, 16 Feb 2012 01:50:12 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13491 Hi casey actually you can delete my question if you want i read through the older comment just now and it was very helpful to me thanx :) Hi casey actually you can delete my question if you want i read through the older comment just now and it was very helpful to me thanx :)

]]> Comment on Survive and Thrive after a MidLife Affair by Cathy http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/midlife-crisis/survive-thrive-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-13488 Cathy Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:50:06 +0000 http://personaltao.com/#comment-13488 When someone is contemplating an affair,then the marriage is already in difficulty. Fair enough. But what if the difficulties stem NOT from a set of judgements by the person being betrayed, but by judgments being made by the person in crisis who is seeing EVERYTHING through the lens of their crisis, rather than with any sense of rational detachment. I always think that it is the easy solution to blame the person who did not have the affair, I have read so many times that, as the betrayed spouse, it happened because I was not meeting needs, that I must have been doing something wrong or he would not have strayed. Here is the truth: I was not perfect, I have faults BUT I also had a new baby and other children and was very busy trying to meet all their needs too. No-one in my family (young children and in-crisis husband) was meeting my needs, but I accepted that for what it was and just got on with doing the best I could being spread very thin - when you have children, you accept that you will not be centre stage in family life for a time, especially when they are very young and therefore dependent. I was NOT emotionally or physically abusive, but I was very very tired and unsupported and he required endless validation. When I DID validate him he was even more cross because he WANTED to hate me. It is easier to loath someone else (and the closest person seems the most obvious target for that) when what you are really feeling is a good deal of SELF-LOATHING. In other words, by making the marriage problems MY fault (although to this day he has not articulated what I did wrong and his departing words when he left were a very strange, "you have been a very good wife" said sadly???) then he can escape. If he accepts that HE is his own problem, then there is no escape. So, please, please be very careful about implying that the affair reflects the state of a marriage. The affair reflects the state of the person in crisis and the depths of that crisis, which in turn affects a marriage and a relationship very negatively. My understanding of MLC is that it has a lot of its roots in unresolved childhood issues that surface as we hit a new stage in life. Marriages and families are the collateral damage of the crisis, not its cause. It is important to reassess one's life as one gets older, but reassessing and entering a crisis are not the same; or it would be strange how many people reject those that they have professed to feel love for prior to the crisis, and affair, for a very long time. It is even stranger the way children are abandoned, yet you would never dream of saying that it was because the children were judgemental, or abusive.... When someone is contemplating an affair,then the marriage is already in difficulty. Fair enough. But what if the difficulties stem NOT from a set of judgements by the person being betrayed, but by judgments being made by the person in crisis who is seeing EVERYTHING through the lens of their crisis, rather than with any sense of rational detachment. I always think that it is the easy solution to blame the person who did not have the affair, I have read so many times that, as the betrayed spouse, it happened because I was not meeting needs, that I must have been doing something wrong or he would not have strayed. Here is the truth: I was not perfect, I have faults BUT I also had a new baby and other children and was very busy trying to meet all their needs too. No-one in my family (young children and in-crisis husband) was meeting my needs, but I accepted that for what it was and just got on with doing the best I could being spread very thin – when you have children, you accept that you will not be centre stage in family life for a time, especially when they are very young and therefore dependent.

I was NOT emotionally or physically abusive, but I was very very tired and unsupported and he required endless validation. When I DID validate him he was even more cross because he WANTED to hate me. It is easier to loath someone else (and the closest person seems the most obvious target for that) when what you are really feeling is a good deal of SELF-LOATHING. In other words, by making the marriage problems MY fault (although to this day he has not articulated what I did wrong and his departing words when he left were a very strange, “you have been a very good wife” said sadly???) then he can escape. If he accepts that HE is his own problem, then there is no escape.

So, please, please be very careful about implying that the affair reflects the state of a marriage. The affair reflects the state of the person in crisis and the depths of that crisis, which in turn affects a marriage and a relationship very negatively.

My understanding of MLC is that it has a lot of its roots in unresolved childhood issues that surface as we hit a new stage in life. Marriages and families are the collateral damage of the crisis, not its cause. It is important to reassess one’s life as one gets older, but reassessing and entering a crisis are not the same; or it would be strange how many people reject those that they have professed to feel love for prior to the crisis, and affair, for a very long time. It is even stranger the way children are abandoned, yet you would never dream of saying that it was because the children were judgemental, or abusive….

]]> Comment on Signs of a Midlife Transformation by Cathy http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/midlife-crisis/signs-of-a-midlife-transformation/comment-page-3/#comment-13486 Cathy Wed, 15 Feb 2012 21:44:45 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13486 My ex-husband started going through a crisis when he was 35. He is now 37. Almost every single "issue" on your list applied to him. I tried to support him, but did not know what was going on and probably did all the wrong things. I had a newborn when his crisis really took off. Within a year of the baby, having questioned everything and arrived at no real solutions he decided the marriage was the problem, had an affair, moved out to live with someone he had known for no more than 3 months, has rejected all of his old friends and "hangs out" with his girlfriend's 20 something friends all the time. He rarely contacts his young children, despite efforts by both myself and his mother. He professed to want children very badly when we were younger and now has very little to do with them. His WHOLE life seems to revolve entirely around his job (which he changed again a month ago and his girlfriend and pretty much nothing else). I have moved on with my life as best I can after all the rejection etc (I understand that this was really about him, not me and anyway I have changed in a plethora of ways since we broke up and feel better in myself, more confidant and happier - no offence to anyone here, but living with someone in crisis is soul depleting for those of us who are "blamed" for all the ills in their lives). I just REALLY feel for my kids, especially my eldest boy who thinks the sun shines out his father's rear, and is chronically let down by this "alien" man? I know that this is a process that we cannot change, but what of the collateral damage - i.e. the abandoned children? I do my best to be both parents and to be "the stability" in their lives, but I can't replace a father. He has been like this for over 2 years now. He is likely to be in crisis for another 4? Will my children ever get their father back? Will he ever accept responsibility for choices HE MADE before he ran off? My ex-husband started going through a crisis when he was 35. He is now 37. Almost every single “issue” on your list applied to him. I tried to support him, but did not know what was going on and probably did all the wrong things. I had a newborn when his crisis really took off. Within a year of the baby, having questioned everything and arrived at no real solutions he decided the marriage was the problem, had an affair, moved out to live with someone he had known for no more than 3 months, has rejected all of his old friends and “hangs out” with his girlfriend’s 20 something friends all the time. He rarely contacts his young children, despite efforts by both myself and his mother. He professed to want children very badly when we were younger and now has very little to do with them. His WHOLE life seems to revolve entirely around his job (which he changed again a month ago and his girlfriend and pretty much nothing else).

I have moved on with my life as best I can after all the rejection etc (I understand that this was really about him, not me and anyway I have changed in a plethora of ways since we broke up and feel better in myself, more confidant and happier – no offence to anyone here, but living with someone in crisis is soul depleting for those of us who are “blamed” for all the ills in their lives). I just REALLY feel for my kids, especially my eldest boy who thinks the sun shines out his father’s rear, and is chronically let down by this “alien” man? I know that this is a process that we cannot change, but what of the collateral damage – i.e. the abandoned children? I do my best to be both parents and to be “the stability” in their lives, but I can’t replace a father. He has been like this for over 2 years now. He is likely to be in crisis for another 4? Will my children ever get their father back? Will he ever accept responsibility for choices HE MADE before he ran off?

]]> Comment on What is the Third Eye? by India http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-3/#comment-13484 India Wed, 15 Feb 2012 17:10:36 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13484 Hi im india and I was just wondering if it was possible that your third eye could already be open. I have always been able to pick up on other peoples feelings but i mostly dream things that come to be true or feel as if something is trying to tell me something i pick up on information that i dont know where it came from just like this third eye stuff i just found out about from trying to look up what my dream means. but I dream of a mysterious eye or a scripture written on the walls thy sea seeth and this morning it was a big eye on the cover and a picture of a city in the background and it said they came from the tunnel. i immediately thought about the tunnel in which people say there is a light at the end. But it felt like something was telling me of what I refer to as "the eye" and its like a tunnel or like a passageway that you can travel through different realms or dimensions I know its sounds insane but Ive been like this since a child and I have so many questions with noone to answer. I am a scary person so i probably naturally block things out so the only way it can come in is through my dreams but sometimes i am awoke and can pick up on things but i cannot really controll it or do it when i want to it just comes and goes. But my family doesnt agree with this type of stuff they think its evil so i am alone you want to talk to somebody without someone looking at you like your nuts i may be though.. what do you think? Hi im india and I was just wondering if it was possible that your third eye could already be open. I have always been able to pick up on other peoples feelings but i mostly dream things that come to be true or feel as if something is trying to tell me something i pick up on information that i dont know where it came from just like this third eye stuff i just found out about from trying to look up what my dream means. but I dream of a mysterious eye or a scripture written on the walls thy sea seeth and this morning it was a big eye on the cover and a picture of a city in the background and it said they came from the tunnel. i immediately thought about the tunnel in which people say there is a light at the end. But it felt like something was telling me of what I refer to as “the eye” and its like a tunnel or like a passageway that you can travel through different realms or dimensions I know its sounds insane but Ive been like this since a child and I have so many questions with noone to answer. I am a scary person so i probably naturally block things out so the only way it can come in is through my dreams but sometimes i am awoke and can pick up on things but i cannot really controll it or do it when i want to it just comes and goes. But my family doesnt agree with this type of stuff they think its evil so i am alone you want to talk to somebody without someone looking at you like your nuts i may be though.. what do you think?

]]> Comment on What is the Third Eye? by mitchie http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/articles/what-is-the-third-eye/comment-page-3/#comment-13478 mitchie Wed, 15 Feb 2012 14:28:29 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13478 hi i was told the third eye is the penal glands of our brain.for over seven years ive had really strange feelings which scare me. i was diognosed with a cyst on this gland .which is slow growing would this cause this .it creeps me out when i feel other peoples emotion just by looking at them. hi i was told the third eye is the penal glands of our brain.for over seven years ive had really strange feelings which scare me. i was diognosed with a cyst on this gland .which is slow growing would this cause this .it creeps me out when i feel other peoples emotion just by looking at them.

]]> Comment on Midlife (Crisis) Transformations by Kim http://personaltao.com/taoism-library/midlife-crisis/comment-page-1/#comment-13445 Kim Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:09:39 +0000 http://devel.personaltao.com/#comment-13445 This experience is almost impossible for me to verbalize. I can't find a place to begin. It almost feels as if I'm floating and can't get a grip to even see where I am. What are your feelings on hormone replacement for women. This experience is almost impossible for me to verbalize. I can’t find a place to begin. It almost feels as if I’m floating and can’t get a grip to even see where I am. What are your feelings on hormone replacement for women.

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