Let me ask you a basic question regarding the times ahead.
What are our next steps?
Politics and social discourse are tangled within judgmental conflict. Media distractions hide our path for moving ahead with grace. Everyone is reacting but it isn’t that easy to plan out a path. So what are the next steps ahead to resist and solve the problems we face?
Before The First Step
The first problem is a simple one: building up courage to take a first step.
Before the first step: we face our own resistance, our fears and our uncertainty. What is the path ahead when you feel stirred up to act but you just don’t know what to do?
Don’t be pushed into a step not your own.
For Example: Getting pushed into a Fight.
The political confrontations of 2016 are pushing people to approach the social challenges ahead as a direct fight. People are gut reacting to this confrontation and the gut is telling us to get ready for a fight. But we also need to be very careful how to rush into a battle when other paths and options might be available.
Is this only about the fight ahead? Not necessarily.
Not everyone is a fighter. Fear of a fight will stop most people in their tracks before they even consider standing up. The act of being pushed into a fight will cause most people to take a back step and retreat.
So how does a person walk out of the mess in America 2016 (or any similar time / place) to reclaim their steps ahead? We want, we need, to make a path ahead as ours and yet everyone is being kettled to something seemingly out of their control.
Additionally, it’s a trap to only talk the talk. Over talking a problem takes away motion to act on a problem. Many talkers just go right back and stand in line with the times without external resistance! Thinking / complaining / screaming about problems are not actions that by themselves will propel a person ahead in life. Internal resistance and discomfort are not actions. Over thinking / complaining / screaming is a huge energy drain on a person. A drained person rarely actually steps ahead into solutions.
The First Step: Collect Oneself
The first real action comes before a physical step. Before beginning a person should pause.
Here is a guide I wrote on how to pause first: The Secret to Solving Problems.
In the pause you can evaluate and get yourself stronger for all future steps.
Once you pause into awareness then you can take the first step.
The Second Step: Know Yourself
The next step is to understand what is truly important to yourself.
If you aren’t centered, if you cannot be true to your essence and values, then you will only become disoriented, react against situations to only be driven by the disastrous events of the times.
To only react is to lose your choices and power.
All too many people fight the fight that isn’t theirs to fight. Know yourself so you can fully support with steps with whole heart.
There are two aspects to knowing yourself.
Knowing your essence also reveals the approach to use as you step ahead. For example: If you are a healer, then your fight will be in healing others. If you are a builder then your fight is in building the support structures that allow others to be strong and stand against repression.
2) Understand what you value.
Is it your family, your children, your achievements, your goals, your home, your stories, nature, water or even an experience?
What is it that you truly value?
Once you truly understand your values: you can then focus and stand behind those values. You would be surprised most people put energy into false values. Many people will fight for something they have been taught to value but in actuality don’t value.
For example: Standing Rock is succeeding as movement because the people are standing behind what they truly value: clean water. Standing rock is more than a protest, it’s all about protecting what people value. Protecting what they need to live a full and healthy life. True values represent our baselines of how we live our life.
A person fighting with false values will always lose.
This is one of the reasons modern society is falling apart. Those who value money/power are focused purely on making money and they are undercutting everything else in the pure pursuit of that power. The average person has no focus on what they value and can be easily taken advantage of in that lack of personal focus.
The Third Step: Releasing Fear
Many people are facing dread of the times.
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
– Lord of the Rings
We can grow, expand, and help improve life around us in all times: most especially in the hard times. Remember this!
Don’t stand alone, don’t isolate yourself from friends, others and actions.
In all times, it’s up to us to live. The challenges we face define and then show us the paths to work and grow against.
Here is an overview on releasing fear.
The Fourth Step: Your Actions
Understand the nature of actions.
We find our freedom in action. We must speak and act to our nature. We must also remember our actions dictate society. So our very freedom is based upon actions. I teach each person to be within their their Personal Tao as a way to provide the power to stand up against any form of dictatorship. This is strength arising from inner peace to follow what feels right. Voting by one’s actions to make a statement about, or change, how the world should be. This is freedom.
Our actions need to be based upon our essence and what we value.
Act and then refine your next step based on how everything plays out. Without our actions, without our steps, then our lives merely get defined by those who hold more power than you.
Understand there are many other steps we can do. At times we need to take a side step to rest, pause or learn more. At times we need to take a step back and regroup. Sometimes we need to step into the unknown and take a risk. At other times we need to step into a challenge. Sometime we need to run, sometimes we need to saunter.
The path ahead is rarely straight nor predictable. Be ready to dance, be ready to use every type of step available to you.
A Final Reminder on Your Steps Ahead.
Remember the fight is a simple fight: fight with your essence for your values. Stand true to your values and don’t waver.
No this isn’t a fight against others, even though we may have skirmishes with others.
The true fight, is our own fight to not lose ourselves. To challenge anyone who takes away our rights. To stand in our power learning from the reflection of each challenge.
The fight is to retain and explore our own power (By standing behind what we value) and not let that power be taken away.