I once heard a quote from an electronic game…
“The measure of a man is in the enemy he faces…”
What a limiting way to see life, only in terms of conflict.
How we measure our life shapes our life. To measure life against conflict will mean by definition to live a life with conflict. Most people do this unconsciously, living their life in strife and conflict. How often do you witness a parent forcing their child to do their will? How often do you see rage and angst in being late? How often are jobs about inter-personal conflict at the office?
Simply put, if you are stuck in these patterns, then the smoothest way out of it… is to stop measuring your life to conflict.
Lets change the quote to be more graceful:
“The measure of a life is within the challenges we embrace…”
You see all too often people are taught to focus on the conflict rather than the challenge. Or another way to see this: to resolve all challenges with a fight.
Kindness is challenging, Compassion is challenging, Grace is challenging. If kindness is challenging should we then express or process kindness with conflict? No!
In Taoism we understand how we measure our life, shapes our life. A Taoist measures our challenges with kindness, compassionate actions and graceful motion.
Is it easy? Hell no, because it’s a challenge isn’t it? But the wonderful thing is this: by selecting to approach our challenges in a kind, compassionate and graceful manner, we then live the most amazingly kind, compassionate and graceful lives you could ever witness and embrace.
So here is a challenging secret. Many teachings hide answers in complicated paths and answers (since we as humans love a challenge, because it defines us!).
Choose your challenges carefully
Understand that the challenges you face… are always yours to choose!
This is it! It’s not complicated, it’s merely challenging… No one ever said a challenge had to be complicated… But again people confuse challenge to be complicated… So repeat reading this whole article and substitute the word conflict with complicated and discover how to work around complicated problems also.