It has been a hard month for many people where despair is running deep.
I wanted to share a moment of peace here before returning to the challenges ahead of us.
First remember to take time off to witness the world. Despair is a form of disconnection so take a moment to reconnect. Find something to be connected towards and find beauty that exists even in times of despair.
Never forget in the fight, in the challenges, in the crazy moments… life is also always beautiful.
Take a moment to flow with Koi.
(leave the volume off, just flow quietly)
A zen garden is all about connection, to connect to the hidden flows of life that surprise you. A zen garden is an excellent way to find peace in a time of despair. So let the koi above be your zen garden. Witness something flowing, pause, and then reconnect back to your own life.
Despair is a disconnection from your path. So connect with simple actions. Start to flow again. Finding an unexpected path can help encourage a person to move on without despair.
Turn any feeling of suffering around to inspire ideas to help others.
Inflate hopelessness with actions that connect you with community.
Fear might push you to fight back but slow down to fight with style and grace.
If you feel the “fight” when despair comes up, the trick isn’t to fight at full power. Wisdom is patience and fighting without wisdom often reinforces what you fight, which then reinforces your despair. So add a dash of wisdom, patience, to how you resist despair. Also to fight at full power drains your energy away to sink a person into depression later. So patience will temper how you push to not over drain yourself. Instead you gently roll around your fight, flip it around and use the malaise to remind you to pause. Then find creative new directions to make a difference in how you move in life.
If you feel stuck: Pause is often the best option. Use that pause to build up reserves, intuition and options. In the pause, experiment, test new directions until you find traction and once you feel optimism engage it fully and live better.