How can I find inner peace in Taoism?

inner peace

What is inner peace?

The Taoist answer is: Self Acceptance.

Inner Peace can be as simple as letting go, and resting under the shade of an old tree.

The path taken to find inner peace is as hard or simple as a person makes the journey of self acceptance to be.

A Taoist will embrace inner peace by always taking the moment to be present in their life.

I received this question the other day: The full text of the question goes as:

I have no idea how to go about resolving the constant questions that go through my head! Asking these questions just makes my life miserable as it always leads to no answers over and over again.
I can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel all I see is more questions! Is it possible for people like me to find inner peace?

Everyone can find inner peace. The path is through acceptance. However, countless paths for finding acceptance exist. Some seekers take a longer path than others as they work out to resolve personal inner conflicts within their life. So the answer requires two parts. It first is important to understand the nature of questions. Then we will teach how Taoism helps a person find acceptance.

The Nature of Questions

Countless practices and systems of belief exist to help people find answers. The challenge is finding a practice or system that matches to your nature.

For example: Zen practice teaches a person to just keep asking questions and then more questions until the mind literally says enough is enough and the mind just lets go. Of course Zen then takes this a step further and you ask a few more questions just to be sure you mind has learned to be empty of questions.

In Taoism you learn everything is relative. This means most answers are not worth chasing. So you let go of the questions to skip straight into acceptance.

In fact, Taoism takes this a step further to teach many questions don’t have a “larger” answer at all, that in fact the only answer possible is that you yourself are the answer. In other words, a Taoist reaches the point of acceptance where you, “as you are” literally becomes the answer for a majority of the questions you face…

In Taoism, questions fall into two categories: Outer Truth and Inner Truth. Questions that fall in the zone of Outer truth are questions that could be consider universal in nature. For example : What is Red? Red is a color… pretty clear cut right? Nope.

Since many questions end up being relative:

For instance What is Red? Well depending on how you perceive the world, Red can mean something different. So to someone who is color blind their RED may not be the same as your RED.

So questions which are dependent on your nature fall into the category of Inner Truth.

Even more confusing: questions could have different answers depending if you are trying to answer relative to an Outer Truth or Inner Truth such as the “What is Red?” question illustrates. So when considering this: it isn’t hard for a person to get stuck in endless loops chasing questions and semantics. A Taoist knows that answers are infinite. A person can spend an entire lifetime chasing answers only to left still chasing after more.

A problem is many people try to force questions which are Inner Truth in nature as if they were only Outer Truth based issues.

This is the root reason for religions causing so many problems: trying to force a personal answer as an universal truth upon others. A perfect example was the question I answered the other day about Taoism’s View on Homosexuality.

So back to the question about finding inner peace.

Taoism teaches this:

Inner Peace can be discovered when understanding many questions are actually asking about Inner Truth.

Inner Peace is a matter of accepting your life
as an answer towards questions of Inner Truth.

How Taoism helps a person discover acceptance

Taoism teaches:

  1. The past is just… the past.. long gone and passed on by.
  2. The future is not here yet…
  3. Taoism teaches you are here now, firmly in the moment: dancing from moment to moment. By embracing the ride of now, a person quickly learns: to let go of false attachments to past pains, learns building a future is just a way of deceiving oneself away from now… In this process of embracing life now… a person can let go enough to actually have a chance to see themselves truly by being present in their life.

If you are too busy holding on to the past or chasing the future:
it’s hard to take the time to then see yourself clearly now.

A strange thing happens at this point… A person discovers all the internal fractures once considered to be flaws and weaknesses… are actually beautiful… That in the light of living now… all aspects of our life makes us what we are… and that is wonderful. In living now… all futures are possible: opening up new “Possibilties” of 10,000 dreams where each one is valid… and it’s fun to play about, to flow as life weaves together into something unexpected…. Because it’s always possible to accept who you are now. Inner Peace opens up as a person releases into their own nature.

  1. Is it an easy path to let go of the past?No… since being able to remember the past always gives strength to avoid issues.
  2. Is it an easy path to stop holding onto the futureNo… since it’s by planning and slowly building with a good plan that humans have built so many marvelous wonders.
  3. Is it easy to accept oneself?No … not when so much strength can be gained through community: and in turn we are taught to base personal acceptance upon other viewpoints over our own personal values.Initially as a Taoist you learn to let go of everything in order to see oneself clearly and to embrace oneself as is. In time acceptance comes at the point of relaxing into oneself.Later in this process a Taoist mixes together all aspects of themselves… to truly live as oneself… this means being fully human. In harmony with the past and future to now.

Living with a Taoist outlook doesn’t mean to stop being yourself…

  • It simply means to not hold former shapes of the past.
  • It simply means to stop limiting yourself to expectations for the future.
  • It simply means to accept yourself now… honestly upon your own terms.

To take all the whimsy, experiences and your nature to where ever it might lead. So for myself the goal is just to enjoy, discover and swirl in wonder. Along the way to move gracefully while giving a helping hand as we can.

This Taoist approach keeps everything simple and honest. The most beautiful part is being present now, where acceptance is in each moment as it happens…

One step at a time.

Having no illusions: since the dance of life comes both with hard days and easier times. The Taoist just takes it as it comes… One moment, one step, one breath at a time.

This is the Taoist’s path for inner peace.

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25 Responses to How can I find inner peace in Taoism?

  1. hsm says:

    thank you for this.
    it was utterly random that i ran across this page. i just posted a blog on karma, from my primarily buddhist perspective, in an effort to breathe thru a GREAT wave of challenge, and afterwards i searched for the word peace, and i landed here.
    here, where i am reminded that it’s all going to be ok as long as i do not cling to the flights of my mind.

    N A M A S T E

  2. @hsm: :) I am honored to have share a peaceful moment with you

  3. Almost Empty says:

    Please do not post my name… i was reading and totally agree with everything………then i read…”Having no illusions: since the dance of life comes both with hard days and easier times. The Taoist just takes it as it comes… One moment, one step, one breath at a time.” And, after 64 years of doing my best.. doing whatever i could to help, to try do to the right thing whenever.. one moment, one step at a time – i have no illusions…. i have no more dreams…. because truth, goodness, kindness, honesty, sharing… they are but a minute part of the world i live in where avarice is stronger.. i have no illusions and am scared…..

  4. @Almost empty:

    Avarice is not stronger, merely more vocal at this moment on the world stage.

    I cannot fully answer this post because your statement can be taken at multiple levels and I would have to talk to you personally, to the heart of your being, rather than reflect against the words you state: to help you in the final stages of releasing being scared.

    I will say this:

    Do not judge your own actions, do not strive for the “right” things… merely embrace the kind actions , the actions which reflect your essence.

    I could be wrong, but in my heart the following are the words that come freely. Take them if they help, release them if they do not.

    I will say this: You express a sliver of fear, this sliver of fear is an attachment that you cannot release still. Somehow feeling if you release this hidden fear something worse will happen. In this situation, for many people, this usually represents a reflection of the fear of being judged or feeling of having failed. This may or may not be your case.

    True release is a graceful action. Do not fear judgment of how others will view you. Do not base your own worth upon how others attempt to measure or shape you. Don’t feel your own actions are insignificant in the larger world in chaos. Rather accept you are doing enough, in living your life with the aim of kindness and compassion.

    Be at peace with yourself, within your own journey. The world will sort itself out also in time. You are doing your part.

    Addendum:

    After talking personally to Almost Empty, I wrote this chapter to help them out.

    Sincerely

    Casey

  5. Jason says:

    Hi, I’m really interested in the whole idea of Taoism and inner peace etc.. I really like your article. I’d really be interested in talking to you some more about a few issues I have regarding the topic, I’v been everywhere for advice so I would appreciate any help you can offer

  6. @Jason: I sent you an email with more details. Yes I can help in your questions regarding inner peace and Taoism.

    Sincerely
    Casey

  7. Norma says:

    I have a question on acceptance. Can we apply acceptance to the modern fast moving life or is it applicable only to the spiritual world.

    There are times people have said to me ‘be smart’. I know that they don’t have a definition for ‘smart’. What they mean by that is ‘talk wittily, dress to impress and do everything to out wit and impress’. In reality according to me there is no perfect smart person, every one is a perfect blend of negatives and positives.

    So my doubt is when people say be smart, they might mean you are not behaving impressively, which might be essential to live in this modern world. At least it seems so. Many a times I have just brushed it aside by saying ‘they don’t know what am I and they don’t know what they mean by smart’.

    But later I fall into the pit of confusion that ‘do i have to accept that i am not smart and continue to live my life (happily) or do i have to change myself for the betterment of mine (and always under pressure to impress) but i might win the materialistic world and minds.

    Accepting myself the way i am might make me happy as I am in balance with what i am but the world might see me as a looser unless I achieve something. So being achievement oriented and making alterations to ourself to reach that goal, is it wrong in Tao or we should accept how ever we are. Because few are achievement oriented and feel happy when they live in a big mansion and few are content in their small hut, the latter one might be labelled as ‘lazy’. Is the nature of being content in what we have without aspiring much, is it wrong? or should a person change himself and be aspiring?

    I am not aware of Tao a lot but hope it is applicable to small things like this too.

    I would be glad if you can clarify my practical doubt.

    Norma.

  8. @Norma: Yes you can apply acceptance to the modern way of living and have it totally work. I teach this in Awakening Dragon Taoism very effectively and it works.

    Please read thru the site and blogs for insights.

    Sincerely
    Casey

  9. Bob says:

    Hi,

    I can see from your question and answers that you have a habit of blending Buddhism into your Taoism. This is something that has occured naturally ever since it flowed into China from India. It is hard to find pure Taoism. I have just found your web-site and I find it very informative and interesting. My intent is not to ridicule your information. It is just an observation. I studied Buddhism for many years before resting in Taoism. Lao Tsu was a remarkable statesman and philosipher. I do not believe that he was a shamin although Taoism has adopted it, and I am quite sure that he was not a Buddhist although it has found its way into Taoism also. Ritualistic Taoism and Religious Taoism actually are in many ways contrary to Lao Tzo and Chang Tzo’s writings in many ways.
    I am not trying to upset anyone with these statements, but I would be interested in your opinion. You obviously are well qualified, unlike myself.

  10. @Bob: excellent question.

    Yes I freely use at times Buddhist references in what I write, but I dont teach Buddhism at all really. I am not a Buddhist at all. Taoism and Buddhism do have some overlap, in fact many Taoist writings have Buddhist reference in them. (most Taoist writings were written after Buddhism came to China. Taoism was more of a verbal tradition, until the later Taoist sects began to introduce doctrine to writing.

    There are of course fundamental differences between the two.
    But, why reinvent new concepts or use phrasing that won’t connect as easily to the modern framework when you can reuse concepts westerners are already familiar with?

    In the written materials on the site, which are really entry level materials: I don’t split hairs over the two much on purpose. Also a blended writing style connects to the western audience much better. Then add in the fact that a concept like inner peace doesn’t belong to any one religion. So I use what is appropriate form many sources to help convey ideas and always make sure to lean it back to Taoist ideals.

    Taoist approach this from a story telling perspective and in re-blending it together in a story fashion, it becomes Taoist in heart again. I try to write it with a story cadence but in a philosophical format. ( I am not sure how many people catch that aspect to my writing)

    I also agree with your statement Lao Tsu was not a Shaman but rather the first literal bridge between the older Shamanic side of Taoism and the first written variations of Taoism to evolve.

    And yes many modern sects of Taoism can have contrary elements to Lao Tzo and Chang Tzo’s writings.

    So Taoism is much more than a single thread. So the way I approach this is to teach a simple version of Taoism for modern times. If I have to use modern words, or concepts phrased from other areas to do so, in order to connect to our times. So it goes.

    Once example: I use the word grace in my teachings. It’s a very christian word, not Taoist at all. But it is a concept that is in Taoism and the word grace conveys many Taoist ideals perfectly. So I use it. Plus it acts as a wonderful bridge to introduce Christians to Taoist concepts which are compatible to Christianity.

    I teach verbally to all my students as a result, I have simple process I use. The written materials here are for a modern audience. How people use it is for their heart to hold, the spirit to follow and the mind to always find things to quibble over. :)

  11. Ratna Glory says:

    Hi, I’m really interested in the whole idea of Taoism and inner peace etc.. very intesting topic
    I’v been everywhere for advice so I would appreciate any help you can offer

  12. Becky says:

    I have been looking for inner peace for quite sometime.

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    I realized that the problem I was having is that I didn’t realize my own worth. This book helped me realize that I am worth something, and that I have my own innate talents- which he helped me find. I love your post… it is a great reminder to continue accepting myself- something that I have to practice and work on daily. Thanks so much for sharing.

  13. Hi Ratna: Since inner peace is relative to the heart that holds it, I teach each person in a manner that changes to fit their heart.

    In the end inner peace is a personal process, take the time to explore your life.

    It is easy to say: take the time to explore kindness and your essence to find inner peace. However in practice, Inner peace is hard to attain because exploring your essence quickly expands out to a hundred smaller lessons that need to get tackled and then refined relative to a person’s life situation. Also many of these smaller steps required to help a person find inner peace are not easy to spot when stuck in problems from outside sources. Then add to the mix that steps required for some people can actually hinder other people. So care must be taken in how to embrace lessons from others.

    Follow advice from those who do not judge and who honestly look into your heart, rather than teach literally from a script / scriptures.

    Work towards both: Patience and Practice towards living your life in the tone of your own desires and nature. If you do this you will find your own tempo for keeping inner peace a consistence practice in your life.

    Likewise as Becky states: take time to find personal worth so you will be willing to invest time into yourself and discover satisfaction in who you are.

    Patience in your exploration for inner peace.

  14. Dan says:

    Defining inner peace is interesting and subjective but from my understanding and from what I have read about taoism, it shouldn’t be over analysed because the time spent doing this takes you further away from having inner peace.

  15. Dan: Awareness is part of the process. To take some awareness to understand the nature of what we are goes a long way in helping us come to terms with life.

    For many people inner peace is exactly that: a coming to terms with life. So in this case a little time spent on terms can be quite helpful. Having a simple but solid baseline to start from allows for releasing of judgement coming out of the ideas and stories that do not serve a graceful purpose in a person’s life.

  16. Search says:

    How can one find true lasting inner peace. I have been in search of wholeness, completion and contentment. I have had moments but they are not lasting. My search for unconditional love and acceptance outside of myself is futile and pointless, yet I cannot but help it. How can one’s heart really know that one has to find all within oneself ( my mind knows this but not my heart).

  17. @Search:To use the mind is to know, To use the heart is to accept.

    People often confuse themselves to having to know more than they need. Knowledge is an ever shifting baseline, requiring flexibility not rigidity in how you grow with it.

    The heart never knows, it merely accepts, when you force the heart to know, then you only break it.

    Peace in acceptance.

  18. jessice says:

    Thank you so much for your wisdom. I have been researching i Taoism for a few months but am finding that I feel as if I want to be alone all the time in order to be peaceful. Taoism so far is the only way of life that makes sense to me. However, in everyday life I feel as if there is too much negativity that I hadn’t noticed before. How can we apply taoism to interactions with family and friends who are not open to understanding Tao, and are still living unauthentically?. Also I used to be very ambitious to the point of total illness. I am now content with my life but I have children who want to be ambitious and materialistic, how do I help them to see tao even though I raised them that way? My family don’t understand how I have changed my life so drastically

  19. Sky says:

    I’ve been through such a lots of trauma in my life that i found it hard to let go and cannot get that inner peace. I live with fear, sad, hard to get my confident back and really i just feel like crying all the time and i have 2 brillant sons 10 and 15yrs old. It really hard for me to give them the love that the happy mum that they expect from me.I wander if you can help me. Thanks

  20. @Sky: First try to come to terms with your own baseline before trying to redefine yourself to others including your children.

  21. TheOddOneOut says:

    Hello my name is Blake and I recently bought it a necklace at random at a flea market with the Yin Yang symbol on it. So I began searching and stumbled upon your site and I was wondering if this site is still at active and if so I was wondering if you could help me. The idea of Taoism interests me and I am of younger age and do not fully understand everything about taoism so u was wondering if you could email me an overview of taoism. I am currently of christian faith but I have never really believed in it. Taoism sounds more like my beliefs so hopefully we could discuss things about Taoism
    Thanks, Blake

  22. @Blake: There are dozens of articles on the site for you to read. Asking another to directly send you teaching is lazy and removes the work out of the very process of exploring life.

    We learn against what we work to grow against.

    After reading the articles the next step is, take the time to walk against life and let life itself teach you Tao, for tao is weaved into the very exploring you perform.

    After you put a name to it then tao becomes Tao and you explore some more.

    Enjoy life.
    Sincerely
    Casey

  23. nellie Marcellus says:

    I am looking for help on inner peace..i have tried what seems like everything ur article seems like it might..please help me if u can i love reading and learning new helpful techniques

  24. @Marcellus: First ask yourself what is it you cannot find acceptance towards?

    We each have many edges in life, edges that cut us up and drive us to do things that we wouldn’t want to do.

    Many techniques exist to work against our edges to find inner peace. As a teacher I help each student customize the process relative the the edge they are facing.

    A person on a cliff has a different edge than a person in quick sand.

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