If you are stuck always in the same box? Then it’s time to flip yourself outside the box.
Tired of thinking out of the box, well sometimes it’s good to rethink inside a few ignored old boxes or to explore other boxes all together.
The whole point of the saying “think outside your box” is to flip a person into a new perspective. With a new perspective comes options, potential and growth for a person.
Flipping perspective is one of the most powerful tools you will encounter in life. Flipping is part of larger practice I teach that I call Spiritual Jujutsu.
Flipping is spiritual jujutsu lesson number one.
When frustrated, flip it around to learn from it, grow from it.
Another lesson of spiritual jujutsu. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Play and try and retry till you flow smoothly. Expanding oneself isn’t easy, it takes patience. With persistence we get better and smooth out our actions. Yet few people ever likes to admit how much work it took to get smooth. Acceptance of our rougher steps polishes the path into smoothness.
As humans are very physical beings, -> people tend to react spiritually in a physical manner. Spiritual jujutsu flips this around to teach a person how to react spiritually against spiritual challenges. More powerfully, spiritual jujutsu also teaches how to also react spiritually against physical challenges.
Initial Spiritual Jujutsu Homework
Learn to pause to expand your awareness. With awareness comes extra information to choose actions more precisely.
The place to first practice pausing is before diving into more complicated situations. This is especially true in communication. So pause before conversations and notice what you do automatically. Then pause within your conversations occasionally. Watch how you and others are reacting within each conversation. Practice awareness within your conversations to spot the various patterns in play. Pay attention to what you resist, what you do automatically, what you assume. Practicing this type of awareness will then allow a person to avoid conflict in their conversation and also be more effective in working with others.
Julie and Casey can help teach you spiritual jujutsu.
Flipping isn’t One Dimensional
The biggest mistake people make is to force a flip into being a binary process: A yes or no, positive or negative set of options.
So for example: Most people flip slow into fast.
The reality is you can flip slow into a thousand different perspectives.
Slow into Pausing
Slow into No Action at all
Slow into Changing paths all together
Slow into Turtles…
Turtles? Yes ideas can flip into associated ideas or concepts.
More powerfully -> a flip will often leap intuitively into really strange but powerful options at times.
The process of flipping should be a very intuitive process that you can use to radically change your perspective. With this newer perspective you can initiate bold and startling effective answers to solve your problems against.
To make flipping a logical process will typical force the flip into binary options. So a deep secret to flipping is to pause and stop thinking logically. This frees up stuck thoughts, you can open your mind within pause -> Then this permits your intuition to find new options. When done gracefully the art of flipping redefines the problem at hand and shifts you into different concepts to explore.
Flipping a Negative Experience
A common statement you will hear people say in spiritual work is…
That *negative event* was such a powerful gift.
The *negative event* could be Grief, Separation, Pain, Disastrous Event, Etc
I teach a person to flip a negative experience into a positive process to grow against. The only trap of this is then to associate the negative event with positive emotions.
Grief or any other negative event represents only one of many edges: it’s how we explore the edge that becomes the gift. The positive process is the exploration and actions you take and not the edge itself.
Put the power of the growth: into the spirit/hands/actions not into the edge itself.
I prefer to give the edge respect instead.
In this manner you don’t empower the negative experience and you still grow from it.
Flip with Grace
We cycle, we spin, we fall down, we climb, we explore, we dare, we cry, we live…
It’s all part of being alive.
As long as you don’t judge yourself, you will grow. Making it through the low points, even if crawling, even if climbing against the curb, means rediscovering patience with yourself, taking the time to use the lowness even, to turning it all around, flipping it into something to find grace against.
Our experiences always add up, even seemingly the negative ones and are all useful for something.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Life already has hardness built into it.
What isn’t built into life is grace.
We act to it, we enliven it and this is one reason why grace is so treasured because it only happens by pushing into it, we have to earn it.
Ironically when feeling low, the flip is to grow. When feeling low we are undercutting ourselves, so we flip that to striving to improve ourselves instead. When being focused on judging oneself, on cutting oneself down, it can be hard to flip yourself around into being positive to yourself and working on improving yourself.
So before the flip, call to a simple graceful action to help you redirect your spiritual energy. When being low, resist lashing yourself with judgement… and you will ironically also discover that action of resisting self judgement… is grace.
Within that action you will also be able to flip yourself back into growth.
Sometimes after having gone through hard times, a person can lose trust in their ability to move ahead. If this is the case for you, perhaps this should be flipped around to trust yourself precisely because of having been in the mud
We all make mistakes, but also always learn, grow and use the mistakes to add color to one’s life.
It isn’t that we won’t make more mistakes, but now the difference is always taking time to learn / grow from your challenges and not to define yourself to the mistakes! This is a very big difference.
Trust to do both better and to occasionally make mistakes to grow from. It’s important to learn how to flip mistakes into success. This becomes possible once you flip feeling guilty over your mistake into becoming about the experience of learning from your mistake. Even to flip the mistake into becoming something you can accept and no longer being afraid to confront the mistake.
It all comes back around to judgement locking a person down. To hold any mistake within judgement is to have that mistake being held forever against you. Flip away judgement into acceptance of living as a complete human being, complete with our mistakes that ironically reinforce our individuality.
I know this is common advice, but it doesn’t hurt to hear it once in a while since it’s so easy to be too hard on oneself also.
Also: If others cannot release their judgement of your mistakes: then it becomes your task to release those who limit and judge you in an abusive manner.
Working with others and releasing other people’s judgements is harder advice to follow through upon. This is because on average we try hard to obtain other people’s acceptance. At times when dealing with excessively judgmental peers, the only option we do get is to release them.
Mistakes are Interesting.
I don’t think of most mistakes as being mistakes, but as keys to understanding life in new angles. This may sound like silly positive counter-spin. How to turn something bad into good… But it is more than that. This is understanding that we can and often do find truth in many places outside what we label as being “correct”.
Now as example, I make tonnes of grammar or spelling mistakes.
The ghosts of several English teachers haunt me and perhaps I was sent to haunt them to get them to lessen up a bit… But it is more than that.
I for sure don’t spell check as much as I should. It’s easier for me to talk frankly and simply without worrying about making my email replies perfect (as anyone who talks to me in email will testify). If something I wrote seems off , or you dont get it, read it lightly and follow the tone instead.
In writing, I have to do three passes for spelling / grammar. Since when writing poetry, when writing about Taoism or items that defy words… well I am writing about concepts that don’t fit in the boundaries of grammar or words very well.
The first pass my mind is far far away from the place of my my mind that corrects and is literate.
One strange truth in mistakes, They actually help you learn / expand your connections as much as not, and they often help in amazing ways… so I have learned to embrace them as part of the way I work / think and instead learned how to flip it over to better complete the way I do work. But when I forget to go thru my 3 check process since I have to “literally” change the way I think in order to spell / grammar check, I often forget to do a final pass, Since to think “Literally” actually hinders how I am normally working with people in an intuitive fashion.
The point being… when working in/on Taoism or other similar practices, it can be hard for people to first understand what Taoism is, because they are thinking already within pre-boxed manners. This is a variation of the classic Taoist statement you cannot learn if your mind is too full! I am showing this statement has many different angles to it, it doesn’t just refer to knowledge it also refers to how you literally think (or to not think so literally).
Personal freedom is far far outside the normal box which society has forced one to think in a dictionary perfect manner that you should appear as fitting within.
Who you are will never be in a dictionary: perfectly defined as a single word spelt out in one well defined manner..
For me, I am Casey, Kasey, Kc, Kasy, etc and all of the misspellings of my nature, name and any statements I make. Each person is far more than just a correct “single” fixed version of living in perfect etiquette or a single version of yourself.
Flipping with Humor
Now this leads into another way to flip something: with humor.
Humor is often the most amazing way to flip ideas around. Weird Al Yankovic’s below will illustrate how to flip written language mistakes into humor.
Never underestimate the power of humor to help a person escape bad times. Look at any comedian and you will find a person using the power of humor to help them find answers to life’s problems.
Rolling with What Comes Your Way
At times you have to flip yourself, to roll with the times.
To roll with the times just means to flip your own perspective to better match with larger social trends in motion. The advantage of rolling with the times is that you can use the energy of the times to push what you can do even farther.
Roll with what life gives you and you can go twice as far using the energy of what is happening around you. 🙂
The times are great today. What this means is we are not in good nor bad times. Good and bad are judgements. What great times represent are when larger scale changes are occurring. Change is always happening, society is constantly shifting through an endless series of transformations. But instead of social change happening at generational speed as is more normal, the pace has picked up to be faster than what people are used to changing towards. Since we too are members of society, guess what, societies transformations ripple back into us, becoming ours also. Since humanity has injected so much energy and change into our environment, that change is now coming back at us at an astounding pace.
Understand your tempo of life doesn’t have to be dictated by outside problems. We use those problems, take that energy to add to our life, and then in grace add our own choices and actions to top it all off in order to be in control of our own life and destiny.
In this we flip the day rather than being flipped into becoming accident victims of an rapidly changing culture.
Understand and accept these are great times… how the terms good and bad gets applied in front of that term great… is actually based on your free will and choice of perspective of how to best shift your own actions.
These are the greatest of times if you live as such!
Flip Endings Into New Beginnings.
To be human includes moments where we face ourselves. Where our stories might try to trick us into a depressing end. Often, more than once over life, we each get tested in our stories. To consider abruptly ending our stories or even consider ending our lives at times.
Here is one of my stories of when I hit that ending point (on the second page you will find it)
Since to be human is to embrace a story. Humans can truly get deeply entangled with a story, sadly so much so that at times when a particularly powerful story ends, humans can make the mistake to think that is also the ending for their life. This is never true.
The point being: endings are merely a starting point to discover yourself and take it further into something with more potential.
The point being as a Taoist there are no ending points, merely how we expand and continue to explore newer angles and potential.
The point is at such points, it’s the least graceful option to end the story, but to instead flip it around to discover new stories or greater options that ironically that despair will reveal. Yes to Flip it, as I have stressed many times to many of my students stuck at the point of seemingly no options… To shift it into what over time will become a robust and colorful new story to live and explore.
If I picked an ending which was simple boring and quick… where would the Awakening Dragon international community that I created be today? Or all the countless shifting of potentials I have assisted along the way? One simple flip and with it I literally am helping change the world with that choice.
Stay true, expand your story and discover new ones which contain more grace.
You are up to that challenge: To flip yourself into seeing a dragon within your heart and then live with that new story.