The self help industry is really geared for the mass market and is very exploitative in my opinion. Too many spiritual pyramid schemes. Too many self help routines based upon consumption of healing. Anything overly consumed will turn in on itself and go sour. So yes it’s possible to over heal one self also.
Accept the pacing to healing: it isn’t something that is best forced or overclocked.
Even worse the self help industry turns the innate desire to look inward to be outward and then to be about outside standards of what it is to be whole. Too many people basing acceptance upon the whims of teachers over their own acceptance. However, many self help routines cleverly rework enough concepts of “acceptance” into the practice to make them feel valid.
The other problem with self help… especially for those who teach it… is it’s very easy to get trapped into yourself and false preaching. Not really my style.
Don’t get me wrong, any path that works and helps a person discover acceptance in life is a valid path. It’s just many of pre-packaged self help paths are a bit more twisted than I personally would want to travel. Life is wonderfully twisted enough as a puzzle without my having to jump through other people’s ego trips.
Spiritually Heal with Acceptance.
Lets talk about acceptance. Since many self help healing courses teach acceptance: Lets focus directly on the acceptance part of the equation.
- The past is just… the past.. long gone and passed on by.
- The future is not here yet…
- Taoism teaches you are here now, firmly in the moment: dancing from moment to moment. By embracing the ride of now, a person quickly learns: to let go of false attachments to past pains, learns building a future is just a way of deceiving oneself away from now… In this process of embracing life now… a person can let go enough to actually have a chance to see themselves truly in the now…
A strange thing happens at this point… a person discovers all the internal fractures once considered to be flaws and weaknesses… Are actually beautiful… That in the light of living now… all aspects of our life makes us what we are.. and that is wonderful. That what we thought needed healing actually can give us an edge to grow against in a patient manner.
That in living now.. all futures are possible: opening up new “Possibilities” of 10,000 dreams where each one is valid… and it’s fun to play about, to flow as life weaves together into something unexpected…. Because its always possible to accept who you are now.
- Is it an easy path to let go of the past?
… no… since being able to remember the past always gives strength to avoid issues.
- Is it an easy path to stop holding onto the future?
… no… since it’s by planning and slowly building with a good plan… humans have built so many marvelous wonders.
- Is it easy to accept oneself?.. no … not when so much strength can be gained through community: and in turn we are taught to base personal acceptance upon other viewpoints over our own personal values.
Initially as a Taoist you learn to let go of everything in order to see oneself clearly and to embrace oneself as is.
In time Acceptance comes, at the point of relaxing into oneself.
Later in this process a Taoist mixes together all aspects of themselves.. to truly live as oneself… this means being fully human. In harmony with the past and future to now.
Living with a Taoist outlook doesn’t mean to stop being yourself…
It simply means to stop defining yourself to what you were.
It simply means to stop defining yourself to what you might be.
It simply means to accept yourself now… within your own terms.
To take all the whimsy, experiences and your nature to where ever it might lead.
One step at a time.
Having no illusions: since the dance of life comes both with hard days and easier times. The Taoist path takes it as it comes… One moment, one step, one breath at a time.
With this pace you can find your healing path.