Finding a partner to happily share life with is a challenge.
Until taking the time to be with yourself and be content with yourself… focusing in on the inability to find another person to be happy with… is just an excuse to not to work on yourself…
This topic is a broken record.
People seek Happily, Happily, Happily , Happily, Happily
and all they get repeatedly is
Unhappily, Unhappily, Unhappily, Unhappily, Unhappily
A simple truth of Happily is…
- Strangely, many people are happy at being unhappy.
It’s a personal choice. No one can magically fix being in an unhappy state if how you focus your efforts reinforces unhappy.
- Be happy with who you are (Hint: it isn’t happiness, rather seek acceptance)…
and then over time find the partners that match your nature.
- Or be happy at being unhappy and always be in a shitty relationship. Many people think they are working towards #1 but instead just focus at living in #2.As Yoda said ”There is no try, just do” Pick 1 or 2 and work at being in the zone you want to hold… Of course people at #2 never will admit they are happy … since they are unhappy.. It’s the perfect catch-22.
Plenty of people dwell and make their business in this zone of unhappiness. It isn’t worth spending much time propping up unhappiness. Oh it’s possible to spend lots of money going to counselors and psychologists reinforcing such bad behavior. But it’s a waste of relationship (time) to do so… No one can save a person not ready to be save… and likewise no cure exists for a person working actively at being unhappy… Which is why Taoism is so effective helping people since Taoism teaches how to release such behavior…
But only if a person is ready to release…
Here is a powerful trick from Taoism. Happy and Sad define each other. To have one is to discover the other. So release each to a stronger root: Acceptance in this case. Living with acceptance, adding in a dash of grace… and you get what most people try to force as being happy.
Happily ever after really truly means:
Acceptance of each other and Graceful sharing over time.
Discover you don’t have to be alone, in figuring out how to improve your relationship.