Some have said:
The unexamined life is not worth living
Taoist teachings often say:
The act of examining life interferes with living
Neither view is an absolute: Or an example why:
If you have a splinter in your foot:
Well then you have to examine it to remove it.
If you have no splinter:
Then why bother spending time examining your foot?
It’s often a human state of mind being in angst and while a Buddhist approach to detach oneself is an effective method to deal with this problem I also don’t think it’s an absolute answer. Part of our very humanity is driven by thinking, pondering and driving yourself crazy in circles over all the possible maybes of being alive.
I am pondering this as I just got back from a long complicated road trip, which gave me so much to think about. After dealing with some complications of modern day paper work -> I find myself thinking and saying: “Wotever”. Going back to what matters to me: Supporting my family, exploring my art / writing and most importantly just standing outside and feeling the damp afternoon, feeling spring touch my skin, enjoying just being me despite the occasional splinters of angst I step into here and there.
Realizing that the splinters of angst are only momentary bug bites best ignored and not scratched.
I feel the detachment process is not about absolute detachment. I rather teach people a more efficient process of ignoring bites of angst merged with a Taoist enjoyment of experiencing fully the moments of living.
Right now I am smiling: The rain feels so good when its slightly warm and the day is slightly cool.
I grow within a now burning expression of a smile. No matter where I go, I am home within this path of experiencing living for bad and for good.
I wonder… and that wonder is enough for me to support my life.
As I go back to an embrace of afternoon rains touching again as the scent of moist earth. Even though it was yesterday in the experience… yet lasting forever in me. We live within our own eternal heaven, if we decide it is to be so.
The Trap of Being Disconnected
Detachment (Non Attachment really) and Disconnected are not the same thing.
It’s all too easy to feel disconnected from oneself, to lose focus. In the chase of Non Attachment a person can push it too far to become disconnected from life.
It is all too easy to focus too deeply on the disconnected feeling and then push one’s souls further away from a personal center: like pushing a raft out to sea and then losing oneself in greater storms of the ocean of life.
We are mind, body and spirit. This trinity requires always finding a balance between all three. It means playing, it means working out: keeping the body in shape; movement and joy to fill the spirit; poking around angles and depths to explore for the mind.
I help people step away from judgment, from false commitments, from possessions… But I also teach awareness and connection to our spark of life, the presence of wonder and joy in being one with a larger universe and yet also being distinctly alive and unique amid the clarity of all our potentials of our nature to be.
A core part of this practice is awareness and awareness is a step to a deeper connection to life itself.
So please never confuse feeling disconnected to the process of learning how to achieve clarity of non attachment. If you feel disconnected, then take some time to be aware of your life and live if even for a second in a manner to more fully to connect back to your heart.