How many stories make you .. who you are?
Think about this for a moment. We all hold countless stories of who we are.
Let me use myself as an example. Here is a list of my stories that I could kick out in 60 seconds without effort:
Son, Father, Husband, Ex-Husband, Teacher, Taoist, Engineer, Physicist, Explorer, Casey, me, Friend, Business Man, Builder, Fool, Seer, Handy Man, Home Owner, Mentor, Brother, Hermit and Guide.
Which story I list above is fully correct? This list doesn’t include dozens of other stories I have explored over the years. This list doesn’t include all the stories others think I might be and for sure some people would disagree about some of the stories I did list.
The first problem is this: People think and hold their stories as truth.
No one story holds complete truth. Once you hold one of your stories as an absolute truth, you have fallen into the trap of self judgement and open yourself to internal and external conflicts. All stories contain some truth and all stories contain some fiction. Worse those truths and fictions vary depending on each person’s perspective.
Now here is a fundamental problem of humanity. People insist on only being one story in their life. This causes so many many problems.
Lets go thru a very simple example:
Lets look at a person was is a Husband, a Father and who is a hard working Banker…
Story 1) I am a good Banker because I make lots of Money
Story 2) I am a good Husband because I Love my Wife
Story 3) I am a good Father because I teach my children
Now here is the fundamental problem: people tend to only focus on a few things at once. Once a person unconsciously begins to merge the stories into a single story, the facts mix and match and then due to priorities in life tend to re-shuffle into something entirely different.
So our married father banker becomes this.
Merged Single Story: I am a good husband as I make lots of money.
This is an entirely different story, and one that ensures that this person becomes a very unhappy person. This new single merged story being held focuses on actions that fail to support any of the original stories intentions. The job falls behind because you are always concerned about the family who is unhappy, your wife is pissed because you only spend time trying to figure out a better way to make more money and the kids feel neglected because they aren’t even in the story anymore.
If you think this example is too simple, think again, I see this over and over again. A common lesson I have to teach people is: Don’t think of your life as a single true story, it’s better to live several stories at once. No one story can represent your entire truth, don’t make the mistake of condensing your life into a single story.
Include a Dash of Luck in your Story
Taoism teaches how to live to potential. So generally speaking Taoists tend to be what others would call “lucky”. What is luck? Luck is the ability to embrace and activate what a person would consider positive potentials.
If you desire good luck then move towards the potentials you desire to define your life by.
- Use awareness to flow with the surrounding energy. To then better use your own energy when required at key points.
- Use awareness to understand how the potential around you is shifting. Avoid rip tide potentials that would otherwise sink one into negative outcomes.
- Understand Positive / Negative are relative terms and it’s always possible to use all potential to improve and have a graceful life within.
- Use kindness to best work with others to jointly worked towards beneficial potentials.
- Be aware of our nature holding stories and avoid being pulled into unnecessary drama.
- Be aware of the nature of stories and avoid following predictable and non useful plot lines that don’t serve you.
- Be aware of the nature of stories and allow yourself to write new plots as required to exceed .
Much of Taoist practice is really teaching a person the nature of being human. Learning how to be human should include lessons of story management techniques. Once you know how to shift and work with stories, you no longer become a victim of fate (those highly persistent plot lines). If you embrace a lifestyle of awareness to explore potential, then you will discover your stories will have many lucky openings for positive destinies.