Judgment is the ultimate trap.
So many people live isolated and trapped by judgement. Too many souls live in constant pain from the whip of judgment.
When living inside the trap of judgement, it’s hard to open up and trust other people. Talking with others stirs up more pain, blame and ultimately judgement.
This isn’t an easy trap to escape. Society judges us from birth. We learn how to self judge ourselves from our earliest days. In school, children are often forced to be measured and then taught to hold themselves down. At work, arbitrary measures keep us trying to meet unrealistic quotas. In loneliness, we often keep ourselves disconnected from others: our own judgment preventing us from seeing others or ourselves as someone worthy to be with in life. We each face countless layers of judgment in this modern world.
Judgment is a whip: fear and pain which lashes a person down.
Judgment is a cage: pressure and insecurity that binds a person down
So today’s lesson is this: learn to drop the whip and leave the cage behind.
You have to learn to release both parts of judgment. If you are living to judgment you are not living your own life. A person in judgement will always be lonely and separate.
The two sides of Judgment
You will always run and hide if you let others scare you.
You will never break free if you live to false commitments and standards.
No one can come close to you if you always use the whip of judgment upon yourself!
No one will want to be close to you if you always use the whip of judgment upon them!
Erasing the Judgment Trap
People might think the answer is to erase the imaginary bars of the trap. That doesn’t work as it isn’t even a step ahead. You will find yourself still trapped within that cage. You are the one providing the energy to draw those very bars around you which means you will unconsciously keep drawing those bars as fast as you remove them.
The secret is this:
Imaginary bars are simply that: imaginary bars. Don’t give an imaginary cage any energy at all to be real.
The first step to finding freedom, in releasing judgment, is to put the whip down and then step away from any cages around / near you.
Quite a bit of work I do is helping people step out of the cages of judgment. It’s a hard thing to do. When a person puts all their energy into those imaginary bars, they feel very real. Many times those imaginary bars will be backed by social pressure and real life commitments. Yet commitments are not always what they seem to be. In fact many commitments a person has are distorted by others to fool you into staying trapped by your judgment.
Look at this drawing for inspiration. The girl isn’t in the cage at all. It’s external, she can walk away from that imaginary cage. The real life artist of this picture did just that. She pushed away the outside judgment, didn’t let it settle inside her and walked away to become an amazing artist.
You also can take gentle steps ahead. Release the judgment traps binding you down and begin the process of walking into your own true life.