Sharing Life with Your Children
As a new mother (1.5 years), I wonder how to bring up children in a Taoist way? There are so many opinions, traditional, more modern etc. What is the best or what to avoid and how to bring up the child in harmony with Tao?
Thanks for any hints, I do understand that many aspects will be purely personal and up to the two of us (me and my daughter) to discover…
Teaching Children Taoism
By living to good humor.
By showing children it’s good to be themselves.
By being flexible yet holding firm to what you feel is important as a parent.
By being relaxed and laughing when everything goes crazy and sideways.
Teaching kindness of the heart and in kindness, we are all connected.
If you teach these things
Then you will reveal to your children the Tao and Harmony.
It’s possible to teach scriptures and other pre-defined aspects of any religion. But such words are meaningless to a younger child. They will only be a parrot to you when teaching scripture. Teaching children comes out of the opposite perspective from teaching yourself. They don’t have your connections yet to give abstract scriptures an honest meaning. They look to us as parents initially for perspective. So don’t teach words to parrot. Rather teach children life, in action, in laughter and in exploring from your point of view.
I have children; I know how hard it is juggling a thousand things and trying to make sure they have a bright future. Some days it’s all you can do just to keep oneself up and to move in the daze. So don’t hurt yourself, any hurt you do to yourself, you do to your children. Teaching kindness is to also practice kindness for yourself as much as for your children. Relax and give yourself a chance to be a real person. That’s Taoism!
Also accept your child for their nature, instead of trying to force who they should be. We can teach our children, can teach them the boundaries of others and society: But that doesn’t mean to force them into a shape either.
So remember in teaching children:
Kindness and acceptance is the key and core to Taoism.
I don’t teach my children anything from books or what is written: They will have enough time to figure out what words will have meaning later in life. Right now it’s most important for them to learn about you, what you love, how you live so that they can know you fully. It’s important to show them the connection to your life, so they know love and can later reach out to others in connection.
Then later as the world changes, as it does every day, they will be ready for everything and know the Tao as their life.
If you do that, then you will be a greater teacher than any Taoist Master, they will discover wonders you never even could guess, because you would have shared in laughter and life with them fully, for good and bad, for smiles and tears and it all rolls up into who we are as a family.