Here are some answers to common relationship questions.
I have been with my partner for Years. How do I bring them back?
The simple answer is to change how you focus your measure of relationship success.
People confuse connection and attachment to be the same thing. When you talk about your relationship in terms of how long you have been in it: then there is an attachment problem. The prize isn’t there for how long you were in a relationship. The prize is ongoing and is about being connected in the here and now. The degree of success can be measured by how well you keep a relationship invigorated and fresh for your future.
Don’t maintain a relationship out of habit or for attachments towards the past and other illusions. To do so just puts energy into a negative relationship that over time lashes out, breaks and causes pain.
Relationships should be based upon a positive connection. Where each person helps the other person become more (not a one sided relationship)…
- It isn’t the relationship we place into the heart
(to do so forces the relationship to become an attachment and forces your heart to break over time as your shapes change).
Place connection within the heart. That way, no matter how much time passes, no matter how many years apart or how you each drift… the connection can stay pure and true… and your relationships will always be timeless