In helping people every day, so many great nuggets of truth, wisdom and ideas are discussed. I don’t have time to write it all down or into articles. A living must be made. So instead the ideas get thrown down to a sticky note after the teaching, if I remember. All I can say is that these sticky notes pile up fast, as leaves in autumn falling, upon my desk.
I need to clean my desk. Time to rake up the notes to be tossed away. I decided today to transcribe some of those notes into this post.
So many people don’t have passion in their work. Yet people make the mistake to think they have to have passion in their work.
Here is a trick for you. Most everyone can have passion in how they LIVE while they work.
Hate represents a distortion in a person’s or society’s reality. That distortion will create all sorts of wrong assumptions to base actions upon. Strangely many people or a culture cannot tell when they have crossed over the line of hate. (In the heat of the moment people are blind to the hate driving them.)
So when trying to remove hate, one trick is this, use the distortion itself to detect when you cross the line of hate.
With today’s crisis’s look at how people are distorting the refugees .
Replace the distortion with a clear picture, that each person involved is human and you can remove the hate spinning people out of control.
Sometimes relationships get out of sync.
Don’t push all relationship problems to be yours or your partner’s issue, when in reality the basic flow of what each person wants has changed in a relationship.
People often do get out of sync with their goals and needs. This isn’t a problem of either person, it’s a problem of the foundation of the relationship itself. People get confused to think the relationship is them. Rather, a relationship is a melding of two people into a common baseline / destination which can rub both people wrong. When relationship de-syncing happens, the first step is to give space to each person. Allow each person a chance to grow and clarify their own views. Then later re-sync the two people into a newer relationship based on the new personal realities.
Most people avoid edges in life. Lets face it an edge is a place where you fall or fail.
The exact opposite is also true. Edges are where we see expanded perspectives and even at times leap to fly.
Learn to detect your edges in life and work against them to become stronger, to see more, to go where others only dream.
Given the choice: I will always use the edge to climb against and improve my life.
Dealing with a Challenge
Being Rational is different than being Reactive in facing a challenge. Often times when facing a challenge people are reactive.
Being reactive allows our instincts to chime in.
Being rational allows our minds to chime in.
Often times we need both Instinct and Mind to work together to solve our problems.
Also another side note: If you need to release a problem. It’s better to grow away from the situation rather than run away from the problem. If you only run away, you will drag along the conditions that led to your problem. If you grow away from your problem, you will ensure the problem doesn’t happen again in the future.