Why Do People Go Out of Control?
The simple answer is: People try to fill their emptiness.
The answer isn’t complicated, instead complications arise from all the side effects of filling in the emptiness. Each complication is another step towards a life out of control. Consider the fact: Emptiness is a vacuum that drives people to fill it in: to prove they have worth.
Strangely even though emptiness will drive many people out of control, they won’t believe that emptiness is the core of the problem. Ironically often times the symptoms of being out of control are exactly the opposite of feeling empty. The unconscious desire to want more covers up the deeper challenge of how to confront being empty.
Up front this leaves two answers, you either fill in the emptiness or you learn to live with it. By default humans fill emptiness with their lifestyle and relationships. Ironically if you learn how to work with the emptiness it gives a person additional tools to go beyond imagination. Taoism actually teaches a person how to turn emptiness into a tool that improves life. Yet this is the harder path. Since emptiness is a form of vacuum, it does suck in at everything around you, this is the root of the deep desire felt when trying to fit in, trying to exceed and trying to be more. By default human nature initially tackles emptiness through consumption.
Emptiness is a powerful experience. Unfortunately, emptiness drives many humans out of control into chaos and self destruction.
To be human includes the challenge of boring and feeling empty. To escape the mundane people tend to seek outside validation to prove themselves. Over time this will become a chase of ever greater validation to prove oneself against. This chase becomes a lifestyle about consumption. Once you consume something, you burn it out, are left with nothing. So, it leaves a person in a never ending chase to prove themselves.
The chase to prove yourself often goes out of control. The process now leads a person into deeper traps of greed, excessive consumption, hoarding and raging into very destructive lifestyles… all in order to feel alive, to push oneself further, into living another day.
Reclaiming life is an exercise of how you fill in the emptiness you feel in any given moment.
I am here to teach you how to be alive, to push gracefully rather than being out of control, to start living constructively against your life.
Reclaiming Life That has Gone Out of Control.
- Channeling your energy and effort in a manner that doesn’t burn out you or others.
- How to re-channel results back into activities that replenish what does get burned out.
- Lifestyle drives most of our actions so choose and shape your lifestyle carefully.
- Understanding both your nature and essence to more closely work with yourself rather than against yourself.
- Balancing out your instincts and stories.
This article will review balancing your instincts and stories first. You can contact me directly if you want to dive into the full process and start reclaiming life.
Balancing Out Personal Instincts and Stories.
To be an Animal is to live against your instincts.
To be a Human is to extend your instincts with stories.
Instincts are fixed, using stories to extend instincts is a very powerful human tool. Stories allow a person to evolve in real time. Stories are flexible and can and do change. Stories permit a person to add in lessons learned as part of their reactions rather than just having fixed instincts. Instincts while powerful also cause your animal side to only react in the same manner over and over again to be exploited against.
My role as a teacher is to help you balance out your Human and Animal sides. If you are only human, you lose touch to powerful instincts which are fast and efficient. If you are only an animal you lose your stories which allow you to be adaptable and change the rules of the game.
Animals never feel empty. They live fully to instinct. this is the first trap. Many humans in modern society feeling disconnected, feeling empty… will dive into their animal side to feel alive or to survive. This attempt to drive away the emptiness with sex, with food, with material goods is always fleeting. Always leaves a person on the hunt for more. To only live to your animal side is to undercut your personal stories. Over time a person chasing only consumption will end up consuming everything in their life, burning it all down to discover divorce, destroyed friendships, families getting broken apart, being kicked out of community and social circles.
Every Human at their core is an animal. But that doesn’t mean to lose yourself to only being an animal either!
Society will pressure a human to rise above being an animal and only be human…Or worse to only be a story handed to you as the only answer of how to live. This is because society requires you to be lost in your stories for it to even exist.
Society represents the merging interaction of human stories into a larger averaged out story.
Society encourages us to always be chasing our tails and think life is about grander achievements rather than the living itself. As we interact, as we share our stories about our tail chasing: we literally create society. We have reached the point where society now directs us, points us to chase our own tails to keep it growing. So society creates rules, forces clothing upon us, civilizes us, requires you to dance thru hoops and hopes of ever more complicated stories all to keep the illusion of social truth moving along.
Modern Society always tries to hide your inner animal from you.
Only being human, is to get lost in our stories. At this point it is all too easy to just become another ant in our society, another rat in the race to the top. So humans resist, they seek their inner animal to break free again. In finding the inner wolf, we activate our deeper instincts again, cut out of the restrictive social stories holding us back. You will then find people seeking their animal totems, calling up their animal spirits to reinforce their life. But you have to be careful since to fully transform into only an animal will make it easier for society to cage and trap you again.
Escaping From Being Out of Control.
To get stuck in a single unchanging story will mean life becomes mundane. To force only your inner animal will mean to lose touch of the stories that give you meaning in how you live.
The truth is we need both our human side and animal side to blend together. This blending is the art of our living. Too much of only one side: animal or human, will push you into spinning out of control.
Reclaiming life is all about how one regains control of their stories. Yet it is always important to balance in your instincts and essence. It is important to flow in your stories with style. Your instincts and style drive your stories not the other way around.
If you are stuck I will help you start reclaiming your life and find a balance between your stories and instincts. I will teach you how to personally write and expand your stories while also blending in your animal totems and essence. These two aspects blended together will permit you to find your personal wholeness again.