How do I Resolve Anger & Anxiety?

Resolving Your Anger and Anxiety
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Below is a general outline of the 2 hour online course:

  • Understanding the nature of Anger
  • Understanding the nature of Anxiety
  • Learning methods of working with both Anger and Anxiety
  • How to release frustration and resolve anger and anxiety before they even get started in life.
  • Learning how to expand your senses to navigate the world more cleanly without anger and anxiety.

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What is Anger?

Anger serves the purpose to release deeper issues, problems, and internal conflict, and it’s a pressure release valve. From the body’s perspective: it’s better to lash out with anger than to turn it around to destroy oneself.

However, anger is not very efficient and is the last step/tool in a person’s automatic release options. Suppressing anger is self-destructive, as the negative energy redirects directly into your body. Anger is a path of destruction, and anger’s purpose is to destroy problems.

How does one heal anger? The actual key is awareness of one’s inner self. Understand the root of anger is about releasing problems. It’s better to remove problems in other more efficient and less damaging manners. So resolving anger means developing habits that release internal conflict in constructive manners before it can release as rage.

I had a teacher who taught me all about anger. My father was a wonderful soul, yet his one weakness was his rage. He let rage control, diminish, and then destroy his life. He showed me time and time again to release with rage, would always results in negative feedback from the rest of the world: which in turn would cause him more harm.

The lesson was obvious:

The world always reflects your actions. If you lash out in rage, then the world lashes back at you with that same anger causing pain/grief that still has to get resolved.

Once your anger gets stirred up, there is no proper “release” except resolution.

Lashing out with anger is an inefficient attempt to resolve or make a problem go away.

What is Anxiety?

Anxiety is a challenging problem to tackle. Part of the reason anxiety can be hard to heal comes from the fact that anxiety often isn’t the root problem a person is facing. So, for example, you might feel anxious, but the real reason you feel anxious could be due to allergies or peer pressure. So anxiety and the cause can be totally separate. Sometimes it’s possible to see a direct connection between the cause and the anxiety. Many times people can be blind to the roots of their anxiety.

Another problem is that many things can cause anxiety at once. So a person could face several root causes but only focus on one issue and then not resolve their anxiety.

Why Anger & Anxiety Together?

Both anger and anxiety often come from the same sources and triggers. Healing one will often help heal the other problem.

The most common source of anger and anxiety comes from unresolved frustration in life. For some people, their frustration leads to anger, and for many others, it creates anxiety.

Resolving Anger

To lash out in rage is to still lash out at yourself, creating problems that will require healing.

So if you have anger:

  1. Don’t hold it in.
  2. Don’t release it as pain.
  3. Release it as acceptance.

Now acceptance has many levels since as you practice acceptance, you can release the anger long before it even boils up to become anger.

Long before anger: look towards your feelings, find the internal conflict (or external) and work towards acceptance. Taoism teaches peace is the true warrior’s path. The sword while an option is never used with anger or you have lost from the start.

Firstly: Don’t remove all aspects of anger out of one’s life, it does serve some useful purposes. More importantly, at times you need some anger when dealing with other people. Occasionally you need to reflect anger with anger. For example, anger is used at times as communication. Look at the lion snarl above; it isn’t anger as an action, it’s a statement of communication to indicate position. The lion is saying: “I am willing to fight to retain my place.” The lion doesn’t want to fight; in fact, it’s trying to release the need to fight, with its snarl.

However, I teach that 80 to 90% of anger is wasteful.

Basic Techniques to Resolve Anger

In looking for answers, you will discover many different anger management tools. Julie and I focus on the teachings that balance a student closer to their essence. This allows a person to find both a stronger internal baseline and a calmer perspective to work against life’s challenges. Here is a simple introduction to some of our teachings that a person can use to attain more refined control of their actions and finally resolve their anger.

Here are the steps for dealing with that feeling of anger.

Step one:

  1. Take a breath, and just feel it.
  2. Look at it, don’t try to answer it, just look at it.
  3. Accept it, and then release it as a long exhale.
  4. Imagine it going into the earth as compost.
  5. With your arms sweep it away: Literally, use your arm like a sword to cut through the feelings of anger to say I see the anger: and it is as it was.

We maintain a lot of energy to hold onto the past: the past is just reflection of what we think happened. In the now, it’s gone, and only a memory. Memories are no longer truth, but rather guidelines. It is as it was. Release the issue as most anger is a lie that people use to project and keep the past alive in the now. But doing so is a form of delusion: 80 to 90% of anger is based upon lies! Why give up your power to such lies? A Taoist as a result just releases anger without fuss. Simply brushes it away as a lie and anger on its own has no power at all, except any power we give it to make it real.

In this example, the answer is a process of releasing both the past and any twisted thoughts that got entangled in that past.

This technique also ties into breathing techniques. Yes, letting go of anger in some cases can be as simple as releasing a breath! Breath management is used quite a bit since our thoughts flow against our breath. So by breathing with a deeper awareness, it becomes possible to release the thoughts which are stirring up the anger in the first place.

For a Taoist, this fact resolves 75% of anger issues. However, when your anger is based on painful personal truth, then we must look at the issues that need to be addressed and work a bit deeper.

Step Two:

After looking at the anger: then look closely.

  • If it’s a problem you can resolve now, then do so now. No lingering excuses or apologies. Be decisive, apologize once and only once if needed, make your amends and just move on quickly and quietly.
  • If it’s something you feel guilt over: then forgive yourself!
    Be giving to others in repentance for three to five times to put forth kindness in the balance of the adverse actions. But only a few times. Your life is never an apology, rather in kindness, our actions are about now, not filling in the past. As I said before: the past is just that: past gone!
  • If it cannot be resolved right away: then let it go. Instead, resolve other smaller problems and be happy with that. Chip away at the anger in small resolutions/actions that over time will undercut the larger anger issue naturally.

You will be surprised how fast these techniques can help you resolve anger.

However, you have to be willing to release.

If you hold firm to “the past”, “expectations”, “lies”, “issues” : then it will be a long road in the release, and often your anger will follow destructive means to create the release needed to occur.

In coming across a person who takes this long road, you let them travel and go your way. Every person makes their path. Respect other people’s choices even the bad ones, since they are working on issues. The reason is that often anger is Karmic. You have to let a person work out Karma naturally and first hand, otherwise you just prolong their negative Karma.

Anger is a Karmic emotion when you lash out in pain; you inflict negative Karma upon yourself and others around you. Pain inflicted thru anger takes time, and active consideration of the people involved to release. As a result be respectful of those working with anger issues, Karma is a powerful beast, and the only way to tame it is: with respect, time and acceptance.

Additional Anger and Emotional Support Materials

For Assistance Releasing Anger

Julie and I teach from a wide collection of tools that will help you find peace and release anger. Often addressing deeper truths require outside assistance to gain new angles that resolve out the internal conflict a person is holding. We teach you how to release judgments that hold you back and then flare up later in rage. We work with Taoist and shamanic tools that add in a grounded spiritual component to anger management.

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Thank you for this inspiring teaching on releasing anger. Really enjoyed the ocean and sound of the waves. The practice of the pause and the breath is the #1 thing that has helped me to release anger, among many other emotions. I have found myself responding much more positively, rather than reacting negatively. Deep and wide thanks to you, Casey & Julie <3

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It’s IED intermittent explosive disorder. It’s genetic. I have studied this from Library books. Estimates vary between 4% to 20% of people have it. It was first discovered in the U.S. during W.W. 2 and was called Anger Disorder. Recent researchers can now detect this in children and brain scams confirm they have different brains. In the 1800’s Doctors gave angry people Magnesium.

Sorry for that length. You can see it was fresh. Do you have a fb site we can follow you, or somewhere else? You are hitting the core of things that are going on globally.

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I’ve experienced depression, anxiety and now anger, which arrives often in the middle of the night, where I can’t get to sleep or I wake up and can’t return to sleep. I say anger, but infact it arrives as anxiety but I think it’s anger that has been suppressed . I want to be able to sleep, release my anger freely, without it being destructive to others or myself. I find mediation can be a great leveller, but I fear that it adds to the suppression of feelings, rather than dealing with new, unexpressed feelings.

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I grew up in an extremely broken and fragmented home. Having had an abusive mother and a neglectful father, I hold so much contempt and anger in my heart today. How can you find the peace within youself, and release all the accumulated anger and pain that has originiated from your most fundamental relationships: parents. Sure, the past is gone. But why are its effects lingering on today. These relationships have made me so distrustful of everyone. I have shut everyone out of my life and have deprived myself of what I truly crave: peace, happiness, and love. Is there… Read more »

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