Midlife affairs are common. A midlife affair typically lasts between 3 months to two years. On average, I find that over 70% of midlife affairs fail over time. Roughly forty percent of my midlife crisis cases are all about working through the repercussions of a midlife affair.
An important fact: people approach midlife affairs as the main problem to solve in a relationship breakdown. Instead, an affair represents a symptom of deeper problems within a marriage. When working with a person, I help them understand and work against these deeper problems.
Most of the common sense advice for working through the consequences of a midlife affair creates more problems. Don’t underplay the finesse you will need to approach this time. The fact is, once you are reading this, it means you have entered a difficult situation, with many consequences that will affect the rest of your life. It takes skill, deep patience and kindness to work thru the complexities of a midlife affair gracefully. Since you will likely be in deep emotional turmoil, finesse will be hard to achieve on your own. As a result, an experienced guide is often the advocate you will need to help you navigate the, all too often, counter-intuitive choices required to move through the overall process ahead of you.