Connect the dots…
A strong desire exists for people to find connections. This, in turn, becomes patterns, literature, and music. Think about music for a moment, in life, like life.
The moments are notes
Strung together, this becomes a song of life
Our consciousness the melody
The tempo is the heart beating.
As an aside, it could be said:
The 20th-century tempo has been replaced by alarms and seconds of a time clock.
compared to the previous clock of the farmer’s seasons
compared to the previous clock of various tides
compared to the previous clock of…
Seemingly always a clock somewhere
Melody is a rhythmic succession or arrangement of sound: similarly, our life is a rhythmic succession or arrangement of moments. Humans love melody since humans can flow with the melody. The melody’s very nature permits reflective discovery. Similarly: if life can be considered to be a melody, it becomes possible to self-discover and harmonize with our own lives.
The problem with this analogy: many people try too hard. It’s tempting to treat life as sheet music: looking for the notes to be handed to us, to be read. Rather, we must be receptive, listening to our lives. Over time, it becomes possible to learn various patterns of our nature. Relax, don’t “over anticipate”. The song of life is about change. In time, with time, learn to flow with your song1 as it happens.
The first step: learn to accept the individual notes of life a moment at a time.
1) Much like improv Jazz
Notes from my journal…
- A single dot:
At times you have to hold onto sorrow
as if it were the only thing.
At times you have to release song
as it becomes all you are.
- A Single Dot
- A single dot:
Overhearing a conversation, she said:
“I can’t have anything without faith, but I can’t have faith without anything.”
- A single dot:
Another style of discovery is to explore the opposite side of one’s nature.
If it’s in our nature to be a pattern, to connect the dots, then flip this around. Stand disconnected for a moment. Do nothing, or the unexpected… relax into being truly different to uncover your own nature.
- A single long dot:
Time, this is a time:
Where mindless machines are built, to scour the heavens, touch the planets, fueling dreams of those wishing to reach the stars. While humanity touches the dead gods with machines of steel and gold. Robotic eyes are spinning around fleet Mercury, or probes to prod the Titan of Saturn.
Where philosophers and magicians rely on sleight of hand showing those sleeping that “Magic” still exists. While scientists practice another slight of hand to permit horses to birth a zebra, genetically paint day-glo / glow-in-the-dark tropical fish and dream of bringing to life dinosaurs from the stones of fossils.
… It’s hard not to connect the dots at times …
… As connections just appear out of nowhere…
Did you know one day we will resurrect Ludwig van Beethoven? As he translated his soul into music, a day will come when science might “reverse-engineer” him from those very same notes.
Where religion anchors souls down on the ground rather than in flight
Stained glass bleeds light down, down as
blurred colors brushed against gray pillars to heaven
Which is the path?
one to the altar
one back up within rays of light
While candle flames lift to the sky
blessings as landing pads to saints
coming back down to those tied to earth.
The smell of mothballs comes forth from the opening of a holy book
like my mother’s Greek Orthodox mother’s linen closet
yet now issuing out from the church altar.
How many souls flew too high?
Fumigated back down by the vapors of spoken words?
It’s a time not different from any other point in human history: we are still very human. Still human despite attempts to digitize law and force behavior to match legislation written in zeros and ones.
- A single dot:
Imagine sitting down, beside an old maple tree.
With eyes closed:
Feel dappled sunlight, dancing on the skin,
Leaves eclipse stray beams
as shadows tango to the light across the body.
Listen to leaves whisper…
joy as the wind tussles them
into the air.
Smile as branches complain
in creaking strains
as younger leaves bounce in play.
Dots, Dots, Dots…
… Capture a dot, enwrite a moment on this page …
Did you get stuck on the word enwrite?
Give it meaning by capturing a moment later.
Everything laid within these pages are simply dots, specks of writing. Some of which, a reader will connect to personal experience. Others are free-flowing, possibly to remain only as distinct questions or memories.
The path here is simple: In life, moments will gather. Don’t overly worry about connections. When a moment is just a moment, live it bracingly while letting it pass. Not everything needs to be connected into a larger meaning. Many experiences are best left alone. If the moment calls to be connected, then the overall balance of the world will make it clear to you without fuss.
It’s always tempting to frame life within arbitrary points.
Transform such points into stepping stones,
revealing larger patterns beyond personal restrictions.
Leaving the Book and Back to the Site
Being Careful With How You Connect
Stories so many stories, while you don’t judge people on their stories, you should also always trust your instincts. Accept and trust your gut feelings since not everyone will have your interests in mind with kindness.
Understand that being kind, doesn’t mean you have to let every stranger into your heart. We never judge others but to balance that out; it’s only when you feel a true connection, an honest, natural connection, you move ahead and embrace another soul.
Many people will try to force connection. When another person forces themselves towards you then move on. Likewise, it is a bad sign when you are trying to force connection.
Connection to be true: should be natural and without edges, without boundaries nor being forced to be connected.
Dropping judgment doesn’t mean losing common sense. We can remove judgment by in part heightening your common sense with awareness. How to feel the tenor of each connection and only move on with a connection if you feel harmony within that connection.
Connection, Secrets, and Wholeness
As a reader, many reasons might exist to why you stopped by. I would take a moment to summarize all the various reasons to be this:
As a writer again I write for many reasons but similarly I can also summarize all the various reasons again down to be this:
In the time we spend reading, writing, trying out ideas… This is all a process of connection and playing about for our best fit.
We each have the good days and the bad days in how it flows together. We have special spots we go to to find solace or rest, and other spots to excitedly share out what we find. I am glad to share this place and exchange and share views. A simple spot to just exchange a few moments together.
As a Taoist Healer I know many tidbits others would classify as secrets, but as I have taught here on a Personal Tao… a secret is just a game people play to add challenges to life… We all like spice and the element of surprise.
So the secrets are not secrets but rather truths in which people find their wholeness. There shouldn’t be a rush to find wholeness since in fact, in heart, everyone has access to wholeness at any given moment.
In fact, as a healer, I know a “secret” which many healers ignore. Finding or helping a person to wholeness too fast often leads to a person re-hurting themselves more, so they may keep the search moving along to pace to their larger life.
Timing is everything in the path of becoming whole.
Some have said:
The unexamined life is not worth living
Taoist teachings often say:
Neither view is an absolute: Or an example why:
If you have a splinter in your foot:
Well then you have to examine it to remove it.
If you have no splinter:
Then why bother spending time examining your foot?
It’s often a human state of mind being in angst. While a Buddhist approach to detach oneself is an effective method to deal with this problem I also don’t think it’s an absolute answer. Part of our very humanity is driven by thinking, pondering and driving yourself crazy in circles over all the possible maybes of being alive.
I am pondering this as I just got back from a long, complicated road trip, which gave me so much to think about. After dealing with some complications of modern day paper work -> I find myself thinking and saying: “Wotever”. Going back to what matters to me: Supporting my family, exploring my art/writing and most importantly just standing outside and feeling the damp afternoon, feeling spring touch my skin, enjoying just being me despite the occasional splinters of angst I step into here and there.
Realizing that the splinters of angst are only momentary bug bites best ignored and not scratched.
I feel the detachment process is not about absolute detachment. I rather teach people a more efficient process of ignoring bites of angst merged with a Taoist enjoyment of experiencing fully the moments of living.
Right now I am smiling: The rain feels so good when its slightly warm and the day is slightly cool.
I grow within a now burning expression of a smile. No matter where I go, I am home within this path of experiencing living for bad and for good.
I wonder… and that wonder is enough for me to support my life.
As I go back to an embrace of afternoon rains touching again as the scent of moist earth. Even though it was yesterday in the experience, yet lasting forever in me. We live within our own eternal heaven if we decide it is to be so.
The Trap of Being Disconnected
Detachment (Non Attachment really) and Disconnected are not the same thing.
It’s all too easy to feel disconnected from oneself, to lose focus. In the chase of Non-Attachment, a person can push it too far to become disconnected from life.
It is all too easy to focus too deeply on the disconnected feeling and then push one’s souls further away from a personal center: like pushing a raft out to sea and then losing oneself in greater storms of the ocean of life.
We are mind, body, and spirit. This trinity requires always finding a balance between all three. It means playing; it means working out: keeping the body in shape; movement and joy to fill the spirit; poking around angles and depths to explore for the mind.
I help people step away from judgment, from false commitments, from possessions… But I also teach awareness and connection to our spark of life, the presence of wonder and joy in being one with a larger universe and yet also being distinctly alive and unique amid the clarity of all our potentials of our nature to be.
A core part of this practice is awareness and awareness is a step to a deeper connection to life itself.
So please never confuse feeling disconnected to the process of learning how to achieve clarity of nonattachment. If you feel disconnected, then take some time to be aware of your life and live if even for a second in a manner to more fully to connect back to your heart.