We seek companions that embrace life with us in a deep and harmonious manner. The highest ideal of these deep relationships is often labeled as “soul mate” in our culture. The desire to find our soul mate often blinds a person to not see:
- What is required to balance the actual relationship
- A relationship might need to shift into something different than the ideal being held by both people.
The simple truth is people push themselves and relationships too hard. The most profound reason a person isn’t finding their soul mate is because of trying too hard. Mix this deep desire of wanting a soul mate with modern culture’s perception that anyone could be a possible soul mate and you get the all too common relationship disaster.
The first step before finding your soul mate, is to take a step back to explore the nature of our relationships. Understanding the chemistry and variations of relationship helps us to better balance out all of our relationships.
All relationships, even the best ones, have hard challenges within them. Another common mistake is that people think a soul mate is when everything goes smoothly. This is not the case at all. Even soul mate relationships will have rocky points to overcome. Once you understand the types of relationships that exist and how to work with relationship chemistry you will be able to move ahead and find the person that matches down to very toes of your soul.